The Soul Amplified Podcast

Boundaries Dropping in 3…2…1…

November 03, 2021 Vanessa Grace Season 1 Episode 140
The Soul Amplified Podcast
Boundaries Dropping in 3…2…1…
Show Notes

There are things you can DO to get yourself ready to set boundaries, and today I’m going to talk about them!  We'll start at the beginning with WHAT a boundary is, and what is isn't.  Like manipulating someone or trying to control them.  

How do you get to the place where you are ready to set a boundary?  Making decisions, practice, clarity and self care are all part of this picture.  Here are the basic steps:

  1. Decide what you want
  2. Practice what you are going to say with a friend/therapist/coach/mentor
  3. Express it to the right person simply and without a story or defending yourself
  4. Manage feelings of guilt, the other person pushing back against the boundary (if that happens) and celebrate having done it!

Not all experiences of setting boundaries go badly.  Sometimes you get exactly what you asked for!  This can stun people--"OMG--They just listened and respected me?"  Then they feel dazed and don't know what to do!

I go in-depth on how to respond if people push back against your request.  This is the part that feels most complicated and overwhelming to people.  I wanted you to hear my thoughts plus multiple options on how to handle immature responses.  

You can do it!  Let me know if you set a boundary and want to celebrate--I'm down for that!

The 2 Podcast Episodes I mentioned are:
Making the "I Message" work FOR you--aired April 23, 2020
Inner worth is the Backbone of Boundaries--aired August 8, 2021
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